What to tell the groom's mom at the wedding. Meeting young people with a loaf

Examples of parents' speech when meeting newlyweds with a loaf

After the marriage ceremony in the registry office, before a solemn feast, it is customary for the young to be greeted with "bread and salt", that is, a wedding loaf laid on an embroidered towel, which is carried by the groom's mother and an icon in the hands of the father.

This ritual is accompanied by many beliefs and traditions that must be followed by both the newlyweds and their parents.

One of these traditions is the obligatory speech of parents.

To meet the young couple with a wedding loaf, it is necessary to prepare a short speech for 3 - 5 minutes, but not more than 7 minutes, since the young spouses and their guests, returning from the walk, will most likely want to relax a little and enjoy the delicacies prepared for the wedding feast as soon as possible.

A long speech can be made towards the middle of the meal.

Several warm words, coming from the heart of parents, often looks better than memorized speech, and not all parents are able to memorize congratulatory words, for example, in poetry. If parents have fears that all the words will be forgotten from excitement, they can write them down on a paper card and keep somewhere nearby. Even the simplest words "bless", "congratulations" and "advice and love" sometimes sound better than long and florid speeches.

PARENTS SPEECH OPTIONS WHEN YOU MEET WITH A CARAVAI AT A WEDDING

When parents meet newlyweds, they bless new family, and the groom's mother brings the loaf to the wedding, saying: “Dear children! Please accept this wedding loaf from us with the wishes of your family strong love, prosperity and prosperity. "

Then the rest of the parents make a short speech: "We sincerely congratulate you on the birth of a new family and wish you ...." or “I believe that after many years lived together in your hearts warmth and tenderness for each other will remain, like the warmth of this beautiful loaf, your table will be richly set, and the house will be filled with the cheerful laughter of your children. May you live happily ever after!".

Words of this kind will also be useful: “Dear children! We wish you happiness and bless you for a long and happy life... May you live happily ever after!"

Parents can also say that their daughter-in-law has become their beloved daughter, and their son-in-law has become their son, for example: “We are very happy that, in addition to a wonderful son, we now have a beautiful daughter.”

Parents' speech should be simple and understandable to all guests, so you should not tell funny stories from the life of the young. You should not make jokes that may be unpleasant for young people or their guests and can ruin the festive mood. After giving the speech, the guests should have a feeling of a friendly and comfortable atmosphere for them.

If parents have doubts about whether the prepared speech is correct, it is worth reading it to someone outsider who can assess whether the speech contains phrases that can be understood in two ways and whether the speech is worthy of a wedding celebration.

As a rule, if parents prepare in advance for delivering a speech, the speech turns out to be much more beautiful and interesting. Preparation will build confidence and avoid mistakes. You can also practice facial expressions and gestures that will be used while delivering a speech. By repeating the speech prepared for the moment when the wedding loaf will be delivered, parents can remember something important that they would like to say to the young.

When all the parting words and wishes have been said, the toastmaster, on behalf of the young, invites guests to the wedding table.

What words can parents find to bless the newlyweds?

By tradition, the groom's mother meets the newlyweds on the doorstep of the restaurant with a loaf on a towel, the other parents are nearby, the bride's mother or father can hold glasses with a drink (champagne or just mineral water) on a tray.

Words when meeting the groom's mother(Several variants):

1. My dear children, I sincerely congratulate you on the beginning of a new path in your life. And on the threshold of this happy beginning, I present you with the main symbol of prosperity and prosperity in everything earthly - a wedding loaf. I want your hearts to retain the warmth that this loaf kept for you. Let your house be always full of guests and everyone will get at least a small piece of food. Advice to you and love!

2. Our lovely kids! Today is your wedding day. We would like to congratulate you from the bottom of our hearts on this event. We had a son, and now, we are doubly happy, having such a beautiful daughter. Your union for us is just great happiness. First of all, we are, of course, happy for our son, who has found such a life friend for himself. But his girlfriend has become our daughter today, and her happiness is just as important to us. We ask you to keep your hearts warm until the end. Advice and love!
3.
The warmth of my congratulations
Shower now.
Advice and guidance
Listen to us.
May your house always sparkle
Coziness and warmth.
May joy warm you
With your soul saint!
Good journey to you!
Advice to you and love!

For the mother of the bride(the mother of the bride is not obliged to say welcoming words to the newlyweds, but if you wish, then, of course, you can):

1. Our lovely children! At this exciting hour, we sincerely congratulate you on this wonderful holiday! Guiding you to family life, we wish you to always love each other, keep love, strengthen love. Our dear daughter, keep your family hearth like the apple of your eye, let your house be cozy and tidy, let it smell delicious of pies in your kitchen, be your spouse real friend and a life companion! Our dear son-in-law (son), be a real master in your house, take care of the welfare of your family, be a good father to your children, respect and honor your wife! Happiness and love to you, dear children!

2. I would like to congratulate you on your wedding.
Keep what you purchased warm.
And do your best
So as not to waste everything that you have found.
Live peacefully, amicably, justly,
So that trouble could not sneak up on you.
So that life is fun and beautiful.
Do not part, children, never.

3. I want to throw flowers at your feet,
So that the road was covered with them.
So that innermost dreams come true,
You ask God for blessings.
I will shower the family with congratulations,
Which is a little over an hour old.
I will sprinkle you with holy water,
I will bless, so that with a margin.
I hasten to congratulate you with all my heart,
After all, the marriage was a combination.
All the congratulations in the world are good
I give them to you with all my efforts.

Young people break off a piece, dip this piece in salt, feed each other, wash down with a drink and break glasses for good luck, throwing them at the same time right hand over the left shoulder. The guests form a living corridor through which the young go to their places of honor.

If you choose poetry, try to memorize it. Reading from a sheet of paper with excitement means stuttering and stammering, riveting your eyes to the leaf, and at this moment it is important to look at the young, and the speech should be gentle and friendly.

The tradition of welcoming newlyweds with bread and salt came to us from ancient times, when salt was still a sign of wealth, and bread was baked in each house different: where sieve, where grain. The mother-in-law, meeting her daughter-in-law on the doorstep, offered her to try THAT BREAD, which she now had to eat all her life in her husband's family. And if she presented the most precious thing - bread and salt, which used to be worth its weight in gold, then she gave the go-ahead for marriage!

Another controversial point that I would like to mention: should the loaf be given to guests or only young people can eat it?
The answer must also be sought in the roots of tradition. The fact is that earlier, and even now, Ukrainian festive loaves were baked in three-tiered ones, decorated with sugar glaze and dough flowers. An analogy with a wedding cake immediately comes to mind, doesn't it? So, the young people left the upper tier for themselves and their parents. And part of it was supposed to be wrapped in a clean rag and kept forever. Close relatives were treated to the middle tier. And the bottom, the largest, was handed out to guests. To leave the wedding without a piece of loaf is to offend the newlyweds.
Now decide for yourself what to do with the loaf.

Meeting young people after registering a marriage with a loaf is an ancient Slavic tradition that has survived to this day. Celebratory bread is kneaded by two women who are happily married and bake it on the eve of the celebration on Friday or Thursday. The decoration for the loaf was cones and spikelets of dough, symbolizing wealth and fertility, and always a pair of pigeons or swans, personifying love and fidelity.

An important step in the life of lovers is associated with many signs and beliefs, therefore it is always accompanied by the question: "How to properly hold a celebration and what words to say when meeting young people with a loaf at a wedding?"

How to meet the young?

By old traditions, young people should be met at the gate of the house. But this custom is practicable in villages, but in multi-storey buildings, and there are no gates nearby. In order not to create tasks for yourself - meet the newlyweds on the porch of the house or on the steps of the restaurant. This touching ritual is considered a symbol of the acceptance of the daughter-in-law into the groom's family. All participants are assigned certain roles, according to which they say welcoming and parting words to the young couple. Let's take a closer look at the scenario of this custom. After the arrival of the wedding cortege to the venue of the banquet, the parents meet the bride and groom. The mother-in-law comes out to the young people with festive bread, before handing it, she suggests breaking off pieces of a loaf and dipping them in salt to treat each other, showing that the young will take care of one another all life together... In some regions, a young couple must bite off a larger piece to find out who will be in charge of the family.

The father-in-law holds the icon, symbolizing the Christian tradition and spirituality of the family. Presenting champagne to the couple, parents make parting speeches. They do not have to be long, you will have time to say everything during the banquet, but a few words need to be prepared. After drinking champagne, the couple breaks the glasses, and the fragments will tell what gender the first-born will be in the family. Large fragments promise a boy, and small ones promise a girl. After that, the young three bow to their parents in the belt and kiss them.

You can use an example of words for congratulations from parents.

The loaf is placed on the table of the young, or on a separate table until the end of the celebration, after which it is divided among the guests, leaving the top or the central part to the young.

Congratulations to the groom's mother in prose

Dear children! We sincerely congratulate you on the first day of legal marriage and the creation of a young family! We are glad to bless you for a long and cloudless life together in love, prosperity and prosperity. Please accept from us the most cordial congratulatory words on this solemn day. We wish you to preserve and carry through the years that feeling of love and respect that today united you into one family. Advice and love to you!
Dear children! We are sincerely glad that one day each of you found your soul mate, who today united into one whole. Appreciate each other, trust, let the house you have created be full of prosperity, and grief and resentment bypass it.
Our dear children! We are sincerely glad to see your informed decision! Accept your mother's blessing for your marriage and wishes for endless years of being in love, understanding and respect. Grief, divided in half, no longer seems so terrible, and joy multiplied by two will seem like an ocean of happiness. Do not forget these signs and you will succeed. Congratulations!
My dear and dear children, I sincerely congratulate you on the family start and the first day together in your life. At the happy start of your life, I present you with a symbol of prosperity and prosperity - a wedding loaf. Break off a piece from it and dipped in salt, feed each other. Let this be the last salt with which you will spite your soul mate in the future, and the warmth that is invested in this wedding bread will remain in the hearts for many years. Let the doors for guests and friends always be open in your home, and the distribution of the loaf will become a symbol of your hospitality. Love and happiness to you!
Our dear ones, today is your responsible and solemn day of your wedding. Please accept our sincere congratulations. We had a son, thanks to whom we now have a daughter, and we are doubly happy for our children. Long life to you in harmony and love. May you live happily ever after!

Words for mothers brides

Dear ones, on this unforgettable day, we congratulate you on your first joint celebration. Blessing you in married life, we wish that the family hearth never goes out, and every day it burns brighter and brighter, supported by the flame of love of your hearts. Daughter, keep your family like the apple of your eye, and meet your husband with lush pies and fragrant borscht. May cleanliness, order and comfort always reign in your house. Be a faithful friend for your husband, loving wife and a caring mother for future children. And you son-in-law, be a real master of the house, a breadwinner and a reliable support. Respect and honor each other. I wish you happiness and prosperity!

Father's words to the bride or groom

After the young people drink champagne and eat an apple cut in half on a tray of one of the fathers, the fathers congratulate their children by delivering a prepared speech. If you yourself do not think of what to say, you can use the approximate words from the photo.

If you prefer congratulations in verses, try to memorize them by heart, so as not to read from a leaf, because at this important moment you should look at your son and daughter.

By presenting bread and salt to the young, which previously had a huge price, mother-in-law thus consent to the marriage of children.

It is still preserved and is present at almost all weddings. What's so special about her? What nuances do you need to know when organizing a loaf ceremony?

According to the old custom the groom's parents should meet the newlyweds... By treating them with bread and salt, they bless the new family and welcome their daughter-in-law into their home.

Unfortunately, there are situations when the groom's parents, for whatever reason, cannot attend the wedding. What to do in this case?

Other close relatives who took part in the upbringing of the groom can present the loaf. This can be done, for example, by his grandparents. If there are no suitable candidates from the side of the newly-made spouse, then you can ask the bride's parents to participate.

Where to meet?

V Ancient Rus the meeting of the newlyweds took place after the wedding ceremony on the doorstep of the groom's house, where the newlyweds were later to settle. So the parents symbolically accepted the young mistress into their family.

Now this has changed somewhat. Most couples are limited only to painting in the registry office, and the celebration of a modern wedding has been moved to cafes and restaurants. Therefore, in order to save time, a meeting of young people is usually organized not at home, but at the entrance to the restaurant or any other place where the celebration is celebrated.

Necessary accessories

In addition to making wedding bread, there are other things to take care of. For the ceremony, you will need the following:

beautifully embroidered towel;
salt shaker With salt;
Icon Mother of God or Nicholas the Pleasure;
glasses with champagne or wine.

Sample scenario of a meeting

Everyone will help to organize a bright meeting of young people. guests who usually stand in two lines passing the bride and groom to the parents holding the loaf and the icon.
Welcome words and congratulations to the groom's mother.
Loaf treat.
Blessing icon.
Response words of the young.
Congratulations and applause from the guests, showering with flower petals, rice, coins.
Invite everyone to the celebration to the restaurant hall.

Advice! It often happens that, from excitement, parents are lost, forget the words and do not know how to behave, so it would be better to entrust the leadership of the whole action to the leader. He will tell you the order of performance of each of the participants and smooth out unforeseen unpleasant situations.

How to serve a wedding loaf?

The mother-in-law plays the main role in serving the young with a loaf. It is she who must hold the wedding bread, pronounce parting words and wishes.

It is necessary to present the treat in a solemn and, at the same time, sincerely, therefore, it is better for the groom's mother to prepare a small touching speech-congratulation in advance. The groom's father holds the icon and then blesses the newlyweds with it for a happy life.

What should I say? Parents' words

Below we have compiled a few texts that you can use when greeting and blessing your new husband and wife.

Advice! The best option would be to prepare 3-4 sentences in your own words. In them, you can include the most sincere wishes for your children. Do not forget to write them down on a piece of paper, as the day will be exciting not only for the newlyweds.

What should the young do?

Permissible two options:

Young people break off a small piece, dip them in salt and treat each other. This means caring for the spouses in family life.
The bride and groom take turns taking a bite of bread, identifying the owner in the house. The one who has bitten off a larger piece is considered the head of the family.

Video instruction

Detailed analysis of the scenario of meeting newlyweds with bread and salt:

The tradition of meeting young people with a loaf is preserved thanks to its simplicity, cordiality and beauty. If your couple respects old Russian customs, then you should prepare in advance for the loaf ceremony: decide on the choice of a loaf, accessories, participants in this action and their speeches... Then everything will be fine.

about tradition, the groom's mother meets the newlyweds on the doorstep of the restaurant with a loaf on a towel, the other parents are nearby, the bride's mother or father can hold glasses with a drink (champagne or just clean water) on a tray.

The words of the groom's mother when meeting the newlyweds

(Several variants):

My dear children! I sincerely congratulate you on the beginning of a new path in your life.
Our lovely kids! Today is your wedding day.
The warmth of my congratulations

For the mother of the bride

(the mother of the bride is not obliged to say welcoming words to the newlyweds, but if there is a desire, then, of course, it is possible):

Our lovely children!
I would like to congratulate you on your wedding.

I want to throw flowers at your feet,

Young people break off a piece, dip this piece in salt, feed each other, wash down with a drink and break glasses for good luck, throwing them simultaneously with their right hand over their left shoulder. The guests form a living corridor through which the young go to their places of honor.

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Another controversial point that I would like to mention: Whether to distribute a loaf to guests or only young people can eat it?

The answer must also be sought in the roots of tradition. The fact is that earlier, and even now, Ukrainian festive loaves were baked in three-tiered ones, decorated with sugar glaze and dough flowers. An analogy with a wedding cake immediately comes to mind, doesn't it?

So, the young people left the upper tier for themselves and their parents. And part of it was supposed to be wrapped in a clean rag and kept forever. Close relatives were treated to the middle tier. And the bottom, the largest, was handed out to guests. To leave the wedding without a piece of loaf is to offend the newlyweds.
Now decide for yourself what to do with the loaf.