We reveal the truth: why appearance is not the main thing and is sometimes deceiving. "The main thing in a person is the soul, its aspirations, its flight

I really do not like the way the world is becoming now and how girls manipulate men:

1. Interesting healthy status guys at the sight of a beauty begin to change, suck up to her, get sick... They begin to curry favor with her, try to please her.
2. Guys lose their heads because of the girl's appearance, suffer, worry because of them... I don't like what girls do with men.
3. There may be nothing behind this appearance, and guys buy them cars, take them to restaurants, even buy apartments.
4. Guys don't know how to get to know her and discover her true nature.... The girl gets used to this attitude. She herself does not know how an acquaintance with a guy should actually take place.

You don't have to and shouldn't have a lot of money just because she has a model appearance and is used to the fact that guys buy her souvenirs and entertain her. Your money doesn't solve anything here... They only interfere with getting closer to the girl.

Beauty is not the main weapon in this world. You shouldn't neglect your personal boundaries. due to the fact that next to you a beautiful person.

At a young age, I naively believed that beautiful girls are all so pure and sweet.... When you have made several thousand acquaintances, you simply have to get out of this imposed perception and social programming! Read more about social programming and brainwashing.

Someone doesn't tell us the truth on purpose... On TV, beautiful girls are all so charming, as if they don't even go to the toilet for great.

We were forced by someone else's opinion from the Internet and the mass media about what is more important: the character, soul or appearance of a person. Someone listens, and someone thinks with their own head.

Social video

This is already a fairly well-known social video of the Internet in two parts. Here the man may not be so cute, but people mistakenly believe that he is the same inside. Watch this short film to make sure that people are not the main thing about their appearance.

Don't look for appearance, look for personality

Guys' mistake when dating: don't offer yourself to a girl

The most common mistake guys try to get to know beautiful girl... They they approach her and try to offer themselves outwardly, because the girl likes him outwardly.

This is a global problem! This is where all the rejections and rejections come from.

To be rejected, you need to offer something.Without offering himself, a person cannot reject you.... If you are trying to sell yourself, it is very unattractive.

Come just like that, with no inner intentions. Just talk. Meet a girl to find out who she is.

Realize how unimportant looks are. Just don't focus on it initially. To get to know a person, you must find out if he is interesting to you inside.

My video

Get out of the herd mindset and don't respond to beauty

I came to this realization myself.

If you value appearance in people, then you will put beautiful people on a pedestal. And this is a mistake.

All people should be treated equally! You shouldn't judge people! Do not glue labels due to looks... Don't compare yourself to others.

Let's say you are a difficult case and you still value appearance in people and think that appearance is important.

What will happen if you meet a person who is more beautiful and prettier than you several times?

So, continuing to rely on this logic, you must be lower in rank, and he must have an advantage over you.

Do you need it?

Conclusion: communicate with all people the same regardless of their appearance!

Always remember that the beauty and appearance of a person can be deceiving. Know this and get out of the herd mentality.

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One model revelation

I remember in one video famous model told the whole truth about , how people have an illusory idea of female beauty... She has been in the modeling business for several years.

You can recall many quotes from that girl that looks are deceiving. She revealed all the secrets of why in appearance everything is not so beautiful as it seems to us.

Some of her phrases were about the following.

In her words, all these videos and professional photos of her are not her. She said that she did not see herself in them.

People value this girl not for her personality and who she is, but just for her appearance.

I immediately remembered a date with a girl of model appearance. She was taller than me in heels. Although I am tall myself and my height is 185.

At first, when I first saw her and decided to meet her, I thought she was a model. She stood out a lot from other girls.

But I was very surprised when, in all her 22 years, she said that only 3 guys had approached her on the street in her entire life.

The most important thing in a person ...

The most important thing in a person is his soul and mind. The soul shows its desires as feelings, while the mind as thoughts. The body contains the soul and the mind, it is the abode. Mind and soul are spirit. Who and what gave us this miracle is not destined to know, at least to me. The body lives by physical laws and allows you to see, hear, feel, perform actions. The body allows us to realize our thoughts and ideas, to translate them into reality. Pleasant for the body, joyful sensation, euphoria, ecstasy, orgasm, tickling, laughter are good, I agree, but in moderation, but you should never strive for these earthly goods, because you were not created for this, I think. All these sensations can be compared to wine. Pleasure for a while, but constantly it will either get bored, or paralyze the mind, or destroy the body. Artificially created happiness such as alcohol, drugs and the like is not good for the very reason that it turns us into animals and brings unnatural death closer. Death is natural only from old age.

The desire to possess earthly goods is an animal way of life, it is caring for one's body, it is the self-affirmation of weak people, it is their refuge. I am not saying that sages are gods. A sage is not always a brooding old man with a beard and a book in his hands. The sage is also a man. He is an eternal disciple. Each sage looks differently at the laws of Being, at nature, at the Cosmos, at life, at death, at a person and his spirit. Sages instruct and inspire. Truths differ in reason.

Why improve? Okay, but what is the path of the animal lifestyle? This is a pleasure, this is good, but, again, in moderation. Est modus in rebus. And when this goal or path to the possession of these earthly goods becomes the goal or path of a person's entire life, then reason acquires another truth - false. The truth says: "Live and rejoice! Here is paradise!" And man, no longer like a man, but like a beast, will follow his thoughts and forget his beginning, his true path. The Earth and the Cosmos (spirit and body) must be combined, but with the predominance of the Cosmos, in order to simply satisfy physical needs, so that they do not overshadow thoughts. Reason was given to man. For what? The brute thinks primitively, if he thinks at all, in general, thinks instinctively in order to survive. She eats, continues the race, sleeps, keeps the body in hygiene, sometimes allows herself to play, have fun. Tell me, how does it differ from a person who has completely abandoned reason in favor of "live and rejoice"? Nothing. Reason is given to us so that we think, and since we think slowly, uncertainly, skeptically, with apprehension, and sometimes on the contrary, has led to the fact that in order to improve ourselves, we need to be patient. And it so happened that the process is long and inexhaustible for our human life. But this is undoubtedly the best choice, for if you become a sage, you will love life as an animal does not love it, you will see what an animal will not see, you will know more and you will be smarter, but not from vanity, but from need.

An animal can have fun, but cannot read and understand a book (why do people who know how to read think that reading and understanding is the same thing?), It does not even think of anything high, and, for example, in love sees nothing but carnal pleasure. The sage can do both. Choose the path, my friends, and make no mistake! You will pay for your choice

Hey. You look especially ugly today. Kagura, startled, looked up from the magazine shelf - she was trying hard to figure out what kind of Jump Gin-chan needed, a whole bunch of them were there - and looked up at the melancholy policeman chewing gum. However, today he was in civilian clothes, which means that now there was just a stupid sadist in front of her, who was obviously toiling from idleness. With hands tucked into the sleeves of a kimono and headphones removed from his ears. Wow, he broke off from his occupation in order to tell her this disgusting thing - too ridiculous to be seriously angry ... Since when did he care about her appearance? “Hardly uglier than you. Kagura's gaze quickly slid over Shougo's indifferent face, and Yato resumed her study of the print counter. So what kind of release did her sweet tooth boss want? It seems like he gave up reading Jump again last week ... did he buy it or not? Or maybe he needed one that comes out once a month? Wait a minute, Gin-chan was swinging it yesterday, angrily giving out a tirade about some new head that did not suit him ... Then maybe the one that is for older people? Hmm, also unlikely ... For some reason, my head suddenly became empty. The loud sound of the bursting bubble of gum shocked her nerves. Damn it. It was impossible to focus - because of the sadiuga, the thoughts of the young amanto, for some incomprehensible and alarming reason, carried her to completely different steppes. Kagura felt a strange rush of irritation. The features of the idiot captain standing next to her, which she fluently captured a couple of seconds ago, seemed to be imprinted in the pupils. Thinking about Sogo's physical appearance was unexpectedly embarrassing. She hadn’t thought about that for a second before. Until he brought up this topic ... And what the hell does this freak want? Why doesn't he leave ?! - The fresh edition has already been sorted out here. - Helpfully prompted Okita, never ceasing to chomp disgustingly. Ruminant. - To be in time, you need to come in the morning or afternoon, but not in the evening just before closing, you stupid scarecrow. - What makes you think that I need a new release ?! - Kagura flared up and, not thinking of anything better, grabbed the first magazine she came across from the shelf. - You yourself are stupid, you scared! She swiftly moved towards the cash register and, passing by the policeman, managed with a lightning movement of her hand to pierce another bubble of gum, which Sogo, unfortunately, blew out especially huge. Already behind her back, Yato gloatedly heard him swear. The sleepy cashier looked dubiously at the printed edition held out to him, and then at Kagura herself, who just now bothered to look at what exactly she grabbed from the counter. A bunch of varied and colorful thoughts flashed through her head at once, but none of them took root in her brain - and she had to just stupidly stand and watch as the seller, who had already waved his hand at everything, beat off some adult magazine on love advice with a spicy cover photo. Not that she was embarrassed by a lustful, half-naked couple who merged in a passionate kiss, just ... oh shit, those steps are behind. - HM. What an unexpected interest in such literature on your part. - Looking over her shoulder, commented the sadist. - Has your race started mating season? - Fuck off, eh! Or should I make you could never "mate" ?! - She hissed and, pushing Sogo away and picking up the ridiculous purchase with sweaty hands, rushed to the exit. “You're threatening the policeman now, Chyna. Okita followed her along the way, ripping the gum off his face, and together they left the store. - Serious injuries for life, by the way. - A police officer making comments of a sexual nature. - She snorted in response. - Shall I dash on you for harassment? - A girl without registration and documents against a decent guardian of the law? I don’t even know whose side the court will take ... - The sadist drawled thoughtfully. - Decent, how is it. Kagura repeated sarcastically and cast a vicious glance at the walking behind Shougo, who for some reason kept his hands behind his back. - Thoughts of Gin-chan while watching the weather forecast are more decent ... Stop following me! - Why would you? I also need this way. - He answered imperturbably. Kagura gritted her teeth and said nothing, only quickening her pace in annoyance. Okita followed her faster, too. Fortunately, the store was very close to Otose's bar, and the company of a silly policeman did not have to endure for a long time - a couple of minutes, and she already flew with relief to her own stairs in Yorozuya. As she almost stepped on the first step, Yato heard Sogo call out to her, “You haven't forgotten anything? She turned sharply and, intending to tell him a couple of affectionate ones, stared in surprise at her battle purple umbrella that he held in his hand. Oh yes. Kagura put it on the store floor to make it easier to flip through magazines and completely forgot about it because of the stupid sadist. “Don't expect thanks,” she muttered, snatching the umbrella from him. Turning away, she began to quickly climb the stairs. “Hey, Chyna…” Kagura firmly gripped the railing in her palm, stopping almost at the very top. - You can see your panties in this outfit from here. The evening streets were burst with thunder from the shots - and in the place where a second ago the rebounding policeman had stood, smoking traces of bullets appeared. - Get me some more! - She yelled after the hurriedly leaving Sogo, throwing a heated umbrella over her shoulder. - I'll just tear off the eggs! - Hey, what happened? Gintoki appeared on the doorstep as soon as Yato entered the house. “I heard shots, and… Oh. He suddenly fell silent, casting his gaze from head to toe. As far as he remembered, in the morning she went for a walk in one of her red chinese costumes- now the girl was wearing a cute white dress, and her red hair was tied in playful ponytails. - Nice ... - he muttered in complete confusion. - This is all this sadiuga! Kagura walked inside and threw the stupid magazine on the table between the sofas. - Moron! She involuntarily ran her hands along the skirt of her dress. Oh, exactly. I will have to give it to Otaya tomorrow - Kagura accidentally stained her clothes with food when she was visiting her ... - So you were the one who shot him? - Clasping his arms over his chest, said Yorozuya. - And who else? - Yato shrugged her shoulders innocently, and then plopped down on the sofa. And instantly jumped back. - I'll go to the bathroom. - HM. Gintoki thought hard as he followed her with his gaze. - Hmm ... Not only did the girl show up late in the evening. Not only was she wearing ... it. So now it also turns out that the captain of the first squad Shinsengumi accompanied her home. Sakata sat down on the sofa, biting anxiously thumb teeth. His eyes accidentally fell on the magazine ... he felt a sweat break out in an instant. “Making kisses sweeter - no problem!”, “10 ways to please your loved one,” “Tips for the first time” - the headlines were full of. Gintoki swallowed nervously. "Kagura ..." He breathed out in a shrunken voice, feeling the blood in his eyes. - We'll shoot him together tomorrow.

What is beauty? This question excites the hearts and minds of people since the beginning of time. But in our time, it has not lost its relevance, but on the contrary

confronts a person with a choice - soul or appearance?

Very often we cannot choose what attracts us to a person more, what is the decisive factor when choosing a partner - his appearance, beauty, or inner content and soul? Why is it so rare to find truly beautiful people - in whom there is both external and internal beauty?

Opinions differ. Some honestly declare that only beauty, appearance and superficial shell are important to them. It is important that the eye rejoices. Others express an opinion of morality, remaining in the opinion that appearance is nothing compared to the soul, and that it is the soul that attracts them when choosing a partner. If you conduct a survey, then 70% will shout at the top of their lungs that it is better, albeit ugly, but kind and smart. The remaining 30% will be divided equally - between the golden mean and the choice in favor of external beauty. So what is more important in a person? External appeal or internal content?

Personally, I have always been interested in this question. It is relevant, because in our time there are so many paradoxes - beauties with ugly souls and no brains, and not very beautiful, even ugly, but smart and interesting personalities. Why is this happening? In favor of whom to make a choice? Let's analyze the choices together. Let us support, for example, the choice of the first, those who have chosen external beauty. Why does frustration come? Why are external attractive people deprived of internal beauty? All this is because a person who realizes himself beautiful stops working on himself. He / she sees admiring looks and the fruits of his / her attractiveness and does not feel the need to develop his / her inner qualities at all. Therefore, behind the appearance, most often there is a void generated by the lack of self-criticism, which drives a person's self-development. People who rely only on their appearance most often suffer from complexes. They are uncomfortable with overly smart and well-read interlocutors, because they need to talk, reflect and surprise with their erudition. It is much easier with a beauty in her head who does not have heavy thoughts.

But the second group of people claims that appearance is absolutely not important, as long as the person is good, smart and kind. Let them throw stones at me, but these people are simply lying, first of all to themselves. I would really like to see how the inner world will help to perceive the interlocutor who does not recognize deodorant. Or maybe kindness and intelligence will help a person wash their hair and find out what a comb and washing powder... Or maybe a rich inner world can smooth out the fact that a person has a bad breath. Or maybe a woman who does not wear skirts, dresses and generally does not show her femininity in any way will attract the attention of men. Most people who have a rich inner content, intelligence and other qualities deliberately neglect outward appearance... Thus, these people challenge society by demonstrating their independence. They do not want to follow fashion, dress well, because they are too smart for this and they do not need it. Some of them simply do not know how to do this, and they do not want to learn it. However, such people constantly whine about their boundless loneliness, that no one like them with beautiful souls does not love or want.

The inner world is also not an unimportant thing, but in order to reach the recognition of the insides, you recognize the appearance. People rush to extremes and meet with disappointment m. Chasing only for appearance - they get an ugliness of the soul, neglecting appearance - they still suffer from loneliness. How difficult it is for people to understand that you cannot be full of beauty alone, that you cannot talk with beauty, that you cannot ponder and you cannot dream. The same applies to the inner world of a person. Despite the fact that we can be with a person interesting, comfortable and easy, all the same, desiring love, we strive for its full manifestation. I don’t think it would be pleasant to hug with a bad smelling person. When we communicate with a person, we look at him, listen and feel, that is why we want our eyes, hearing and heart to be in harmony and not to argue with each other. I am sure that there are no men who would be pleased to meet a girl who has cracked nail polish, dandruff, who is not neatly and tastelessly dressed, but she is smart, cheerful and decent. Likewise, women want to see not only the smart next to them. Decent and noble, but also strong man... And this force is most often seen externally.

They say, beautiful people easier in life. It is believed that everything is easy for them, because with just one wave of eyelashes - the whole world lies at their feet. Many people, not having in their opinion a bright appearance, complain about the spectacular beauties and beauties who leave a trail of broken hearts behind them. the question is brewing - what prevents you from becoming beautiful and effective? To lament that someone is beautiful and you are not is like lamenting that he knows the multiplication table, and you don’t. If you don't know the multiplication table, sit down and learn. You want attention. if you want to be beautiful, work on yourself. Many people confuse external beauty with glamor. These things have nothing to do with each other. Beauty is not expensive handbags and shoes, it is not jewelry and fur coats. The concepts and standards of beauty are different for everyone, and you should not chase after them. You should not compare yourself with Hollywood stars and try to imitate them. It is important to realize your individuality and follow it. It is important to learn to emphasize your merits, both internal and external. Appearance and external beauty encompasses a person's ability to present his appearance, the ability to take care of himself, take care of his hair, hands, figure, be neat, well-groomed and fresh. A person may not be smartly dressed, but clothes should be clean and fresh, face washed, hands and nails well-groomed. Men should not neglect to monitor their wardrobe as well as girls to use light makeup, wear heels, skirts, blouses, dresses, and not disguise themselves as baggy sweaters and shapeless pants. Sometimes you see a girl looking ugly like that. feel sorry that no one is looking at her. And you look closely and think that everything is in order! If only some hairstyle for her, a bright dress, shoes with heels, makeup light- and now the caterpillar flutters like a butterfly. and not ugly, but on the contrary, very cute and pretty. Simply dressed with taste, combed, dosed and beautifully displayed femininity, figure and face. Now there are so many assistants in the field of beauty - stylists, hairdressers, dentists, make-up artists, etc. And the fact that a girl or a guy put their appearance in order does not at all mean that they are empty at heart. It's nice when the inner world is adorned with outer beauty.

As a rule, appearance is an expression of the inner world. Moral freaks are not just ugly, they are ugly in a special way, and their moral ugliness is felt when you look at them. People who have lived a long and vicious life, even once Beautiful face becomes repulsive, all the vices experienced are imprinted on it (remember, at least, "The Picture of Dorian Gray"). Nervous people are betrayed by their eyes, harsh gestures and stupid habits, such as permanent hair straightening and nail biting. How to recognize a neop a pleasant person, I think, it is not necessary to explain to anyone. Have kind people very rarely there are evil faces and vice versa. A lot about a person can be learned by his appearance and behavior, proved by Sherlock Holmes. If a person is truly beautiful on the inside, if he is smart and kind, such a person will never allow himself to keep his appearance in disarray. A person who is truly beautiful on the inside will strive for external beauty as well. Such a person will not suffer from complexes about the fact that nature has cheated him. On the contrary, he will make an effort to be attractive both in the eyes of people and in their hearts. He will strive for harmony,

A 36-year-old woman from Kiev, who was hit by a train 15 years ago and lost both legs, not only continues to teach children to dance, but she herself took up ballroom dancing in a wheelchair. She recently returned from Holland, where she fought for the World Cup. The Ukrainian national team won five out of eight gold medals at these competitions! In 1998, Elena Chinka fell under the wheels of a train: she tried to jump into a moving car, but her hands slipped off the handrail ... Left leg the composition cut off almost completely, the right - to the knee. All plans, hopes of the girl immediately collapsed. In such a situation, it is easy to despair, to withdraw into oneself, not to appear in public. But it all depends on the character of the person, the strength of his spirit and courage. Lena has enough of all this for ten!

Even in the hospital, she decided: the absence of legs is not a reason to put an end to her life. She quickly learned to walk with prostheses. Why go there! Already a few months after the tragedy, Lena entered the hall in which she worked as a choreographer, and stood with the children to the machine, practicing the pas. For such incredible willpower and dedication, ten years ago Elena Chinka received the Pride of the Country award in the Strength of Spirit nomination. The statuette was presented to her by the musician Svyatoslav Vakarchuk. Going onto the stage and congratulating the extraordinary woman on the award, he knelt down in front of her. Moved Lena said then: "They often carry me in their arms, but only Vakarchuk knelt in front of me."

Elena received the award during the first award ceremony, and on the tenth - this year - she was invited as a guest of honor ... A slender beauty in an evening flying dress looked like a fairy. It is impossible to believe in it, but Lena still teaches in a dance club, travels with her wards to competitions and competitions. Moreover, she herself is constantly improving: not so long ago she took up dancing in a wheelchair and is already winning medals at various international championships and competitions. Talking to Elena before the ceremony of awarding the laureates of "The Pride of the Country", I learned that not so long ago she returned from Holland, where she fought for the World Cup in ballroom dancing in wheelchairs as a member of the Ukrainian national team!

"Dancing in wheelchairs is a method of rehabilitation for people who have suffered a severe spinal injury"

You cannot imagine how surprised all the participants of the World Cup were when Ukrainian couples won five gold medals out of eight possible! - Elena Chinka cannot contain her glee. - And three medals went to the heroes, about which the "FACTS" told more than once. Nadya and Ivan Sivak, who won two gold medals, several years ago, like me, received the Pride of the Country award, and the owner of another gold, Ilona Slugovina, was nominated for this action this year. In addition, one pair won a silver medal and two finished fourth. And this despite the fact that all of us, members of the national team, perform in uncomfortable, old wheelchairs, which no one else in the world rides!

- Lena, why did you decide to take off your prostheses and dance in a wheelchair?

I have never done ballroom dancing - only modern ones. Once the coach of the Ukrainian national wheelchair dance team Olena Chyzh saw me during a rehearsal and asked our mutual friend: "Who is that swinging his legs there like that?" When I met her, she suggested that I try dancing in a wheelchair. And I am interested in everything new, and, to be honest, I have long wanted to work with a coach myself, to feel like plasticine, from which something is molded. Fortunately, I also got a partner. Misha is a healthy guy. We performed in the combi category with him, when one of the partners was in a wheelchair. Going to the European Championship, we didn't even think about medals, but just wanted to feel the atmosphere of the competition. During the Viennese waltz, the main thing for us was not to face rivals. As a result, they won a bronze medal. That was great! A year later, at the German Open Championship, we were awarded the "gold"! I remember, with joy at that moment, I wanted to hug the whole world.

Then Elena began to train with another partner. Several years ago, Alexander Onishchenko had an accident, received a severe back injury and stopped feeling the lower body.

Dancing in wheelchairs is a kind of rehabilitation for people who survived a terrible tragedy, explains Elena Chinka. - A way to return a person's faith in himself, in the future. You don't have to compete in any kind of competition. But moving to the music, learning to use a wheelchair, communicating with those who have already gone all this way is very important for a person who at one point has lost the ability to walk. After all, we practically do not have rehabilitation centers for people with back injuries. As a rule, they are on their own. And it's good if they find out about dance clubs, if there is an opportunity to attend them ...

Elena is showing videos of her dances on the computer. How emotional and beautiful she is! Words cannot convey.

You have no idea how many ideas are swarming in my head, ”the young woman smiles. - If only some of them could be realized! Mom, with whom we live together, sometimes tries to stop me, says: "Lena, slow down, take a break." But I am in a hurry to live. I really want to stage a production with the famous choreographer Konstantin Tomilchenko. During the last awards ceremony of the "Pride of the Country" campaign, he showed a very gentle dance with the winner in the "Children's Courage" nomination. I think we would have made an interesting production. I already have experience working with the dancer of the National Opera Vladimir Chuprin. We did several theatrical plastic shows with him. Volodya feels me very subtly.

Elena dances with Vladimir without prostheses and not in a wheelchair, so part of the production takes place on the floor. The partner, picking up the girl, becomes her feet. What he saw penetrates to the depths of the soul. Intertwining bodies, unexpected supports convey such a range of feelings, and Lena is so good that only one thing comes to mind - this is real art. Sincere and touching.

“There are already prostheses in the world that make it possible to wear high-heeled shoes. At least I dream of trying on such! "

- Lena, you are not ashamed to show your legs without prostheses, got into a stroller to learn ballroom dancing ...

At the same time, I hide my stumps under fishnet tights - everything should be aesthetically pleasing, and not arouse in the audience discomfort... As for the stroller ... I understand that one day I will not be able to walk on prostheses, because it is not easy: the load is not distributed in the same way as in a healthy person, which causes the spine to suffer. Sometimes in the evening I just fall into bed with severe pain ... Although I do not allow myself to relax. Indoors, as a rule, I walk without additional support, but on our streets, where the sidewalks are terribly uneven, I cannot do without a stick. It's good that I have the opportunity to drive - a few years ago my friends football players Vladislav Vashchuk and Alexander Shovkovsky presented me with a car. After learning my story, the guys began to support me. And nowhere do they advertise what they are doing. For me, friendship with them is very valuable. They inspire me too. And their gift made my life much easier.

- How often do you have to change your dentures?

One had to be replaced six months ago, but I still can't find the time for this. My master constantly scolds me: “You run to dances and some events, but there is no time to come to me! Lena, you must take care of your health! " After all, I have been wearing one temporary prosthesis for several months, which is made of glass, and it can crumble from an accidental blow. The other one - German, very high quality - has been serving me for more than three years. However, there are constant problems with the receptacle. The stump of my thigh becomes smaller, and so that the prosthesis "fits" tightly, I put in rolled nylon stockings. But this is wrong, because the fulcrum is changing. In addition, the parts of the receptacle that do not adjoin the leg constantly rub against the clothes, which is why holes appear very quickly in skirts and trousers.

You know, I am constantly on the Internet looking for information about prostheses, new mountings. And it amazes me how it all develops in the world, while in our country it remains at some antediluvian level. I saw a video in which a Japanese woman, who does not have a leg from the hip, demonstrates how she removes a sneaker from the foot of a prosthesis. She twists the screw with a screwdriver and puts on ... high heels! At the same time, the prosthesis itself is very similar to a leg, because its metal rod is covered with flesh-colored silicone. I showed this video to my prosthetist. She poked at the screen with the words: “And I want to walk in heels! Not every day, of course, but at least once a month you can go to some event in beautiful shoes! "

All 15 years after I lost my legs, I wear only moccasins or sneakers. Even for evening events, you have to wear normal shoes. It upsets me. Still, I am still a young woman, I want to be beautiful and attractive. But in other countries, designers are constantly improving the shape and type of prostheses. They are made of silicone, resembling human skin to the touch, painted on them, imitating tattoos, so that a disabled person can wear shorts, short skirts... Moreover, for people in wheelchairs who have limited mobility, they are developing special clothing with magnetic Velcro. This one is convenient to take off and put on, it does not gather in folds, does not rub and does not interfere. How important it is to consider every detail! In addition, the type of fabric is considered. After all, few people know that an immobile person is afraid to get caught in the rain - wet clothes can seriously damage the skin of insensitive parts of the body.

- Lena, you are much more active than many healthy people. Where do you get your strength?

One of the worst sins is discouragement. And if I suddenly feel that fatigue is rolling over me, I go to the temple. It gets easier there. I noticed long ago: as soon as I stop doing something, rushing somewhere, I start digging into myself. As a rule, this does not lead to anything good. I am always dissatisfied with myself, with what I am doing, I think that I am not applying enough strength ... So I try to be busy all the time.

Lena is helped to train children by her already grown student. She not only understands the requirements of the choreographer well, but also accurately shows all the movements. After all, now a woman cannot always stand at the bench ... Recently, Lena met a young Ukrainian artist and now undertook to help him organize an exhibition of his works. She is also working on a joint project with the Ridna Pisnya collective, which revives ancient psalms, is looking for people to hold a dance festival ... Next to this woman, even healthy person may feel helpless: for example, I do not have time to do as much in a day as Lena. And every meeting with her becomes an incentive for me to do as much as possible.

I came to the conclusion that the main thing in a person is the soul, its aspirations, its flight, says Elena. - The body is secondary. And it is very important to work on the quality of your soul every day. I live by this principle ...

Violetta Kirtoka